Remember the boy whom had only 20 days left for his family to find him? Well, they found him. We don't know who yet but MIRACLES HAPPEN EVERYONE. They happen. You have to pray. You have to believe. You have to sometimes take a giant leap of faith and say - yes, this time it is me being called, not someone else. This time, its me. Because this time - it's Kevin. THANK YOU GOD!
Which brings me back to BELLA. She also is 13 and only has until February to find her family or she will NEVER BE ADOPTED. We did it in time for Kevin. We CAN do it in time for Bella. Please please please pass word of her on. This blog is entering it's fourth year. People ask me why I keep blogging for orphans and people I don't know. The answer is its because its all I can do. Please, do something too? Pray. Consider being Bella's family or pass word of her on today. With God, money isn't an object, it isn't, not for things close to his heart, and I've seen time and again and I believe that orphan's are. Thank you everyone.
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Showing posts with label teen adoption. Show all posts
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Please Remember Kevin:
'Kevin' is the 13 year old boy I wrote about in this entry HERE. His remaining 20 day chance to be adopted has dropped to just 10 -- But he has 2 separate families trying to rescue and adopt him. However, I am guessing, that as there are only 10 days left until he is not adoptable -- things are not going easy at all. They are asking for prayers for a miracle for him. If you pray, please, please include this boy. If not, think of him please? Thank you all again.
Sunday, October 3, 2010
From the Ground Up:
A blog friend of mine recently went to EE and brought home an older boy whom had been on my heart for years. It was amazing to see their journey and I found myself wishing to adopt an older child as well. Sure, it may be a struggle, there will be adjustments, but is the same when new people of any age comes into your life, and not just kids. What a blessing for sure. My blogging friend has now started advocating for the older orphans of E.E. on a new blog: EE's Orhans.
Bringing home an older child is different yes. They are who they are, bringing with them memories in tact that adoptive parents treasure for younger children whom cannot remember for themselves and whole heartily pass on to help them achieve a sense of identity.
Older children have their own memories and an already developing sense of identity. And while some of those memories might not be good ones, I would think surely they cannot all be bad ones either. After all who does not have some bad memories? Who hasn't been hurt? What about the fun memories or the favorite food to share?
That is what you are for.
When God made us, he broke the mold for each of us. Everyone is different. But everyone needs love and understanding.
There is an amazing feeling you get when you watch an older child learn they are loved, there is an amazing kind of wonder mixed with amusement, amazement and endearment in perhaps the mixture of naive-itivity and innocent wisdom that we have adults have sometimes lost that older kids put back in your lives. Yes, there is frustration too, but there is strength. There will be hard times yes, but there is love. There might be questions, but God always answers. Always.
These are his children too.
Some people say, you change them. But they change you too. You might wonder why you didn't do this before with an older child. You might want to do it again. All of this I found myself wishing for while I followed the adoption of a very special boy. Please visit EE's Orphans today and watch them work their way from the ground up.
Bringing home an older child is different yes. They are who they are, bringing with them memories in tact that adoptive parents treasure for younger children whom cannot remember for themselves and whole heartily pass on to help them achieve a sense of identity.
Older children have their own memories and an already developing sense of identity. And while some of those memories might not be good ones, I would think surely they cannot all be bad ones either. After all who does not have some bad memories? Who hasn't been hurt? What about the fun memories or the favorite food to share?
That is what you are for.
When God made us, he broke the mold for each of us. Everyone is different. But everyone needs love and understanding.
There is an amazing feeling you get when you watch an older child learn they are loved, there is an amazing kind of wonder mixed with amusement, amazement and endearment in perhaps the mixture of naive-itivity and innocent wisdom that we have adults have sometimes lost that older kids put back in your lives. Yes, there is frustration too, but there is strength. There will be hard times yes, but there is love. There might be questions, but God always answers. Always.
These are his children too.
Some people say, you change them. But they change you too. You might wonder why you didn't do this before with an older child. You might want to do it again. All of this I found myself wishing for while I followed the adoption of a very special boy. Please visit EE's Orphans today and watch them work their way from the ground up.
Friday, June 11, 2010
...my two cents on a few things:
"It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you wish. "
--Mother Teresa
People ask me why, still, adopt overseas orphans instead of our own. The fact is I am not saying not to adopt our own at all. I think all orphans need a family, here or overseas. I believe that God knows and will lead you where to go, sure, it might look like it is yourself, and agencies, etc -- but was it a successful adoption, or did it fall through? If it doesn't work, most likely it wasn't meant to be. I know that is why I can't adopt right now. I don't have the means but the means will come.
So, why Overseas? They will die without us. In cribs or beds, alone, its not just something people whom advocate for them say -- it is the sad truth -- they will be transferred to institutions like these [warning, disturbing content] -- and not just in the country featured in the example video.
Yes, they are disabled. But they are JUST KIDS. Taken out of conditions like those shown they can thrive, improve, develop, learn and grow.
I read a story once on an adoptive mother's blog about how the orphanage her daughter was at was not expecting her and she walked in to find all the kids tied to the wooden slats of a playpen when she went to visit her little girl.
Here, this is neglect and child abuse. Here, the perpetrator would be investigated, arrested, tried and if found guilty -- sent to jail. There -- these people are paid to do this. These children are OBJECTS to most, less than animals, a paycheck to take home. Yes, that sounds harsh. I know, but it is the hard reality of MOST over there.
In the USA, this does not happen. These kids here are in 'the system' yes, but they have A CHANCE. However slight it is, they at least have a chance to make it and the support and help they need, they get to go to school and get an education, they are integrated into a family with the idea of being taught values behind it. They are valued members of society.
In the United States most people want toddlers or babies, its hard to be an older child or a teen. The stigma is that older kids are already 'wired' to act one way or another and are not shape-able anymore. -- Right. Tell me, at what age do you stop learning and loving and growing emotionally and spiritually?
In International Adoptions most people want toddlers or babies too. Most often when you say international adoption you think of China. China, is one of the hardest, if not the hardest program to adopt from in the world. You can't be single, you can't be over a certain age, you even have to fall within a certain BMI weight as well. These are just a few of their requirements. I've heard they say its because they are trying to find 'families for children' not 'children for families'
That, I applaud and agree with. And yet, find hard to believe. Why does adopting from China take over two years?? They say its because they don't have enough kids there? And yet you have kids in china just sitting in orphanages and waiting and dying that are considered "not adoptable" why? Because they are missing a leg, have a cleft palate, have down syndrome, cerebral palsy? Is it because they were born a girl? There are PLENTY of children in China for ALL people to bring home. So why don't they let them go? Are their requirements for who is adoptable and whom is not just as strict?? They don't want them -- they allow only one kid per household. That in itself is adding to the problem of their over population, because they all only can have one child - most little girls get abandoned because boys carry the family name. Yet, abandoned girls are STILL there. They are STILL adding to the population. Soo.. why not allow TWO children per household?? This will give them a second chance to have a boy AND get kids out of orphanages and out of streets -- thus causing a drop in population. Sadly, China is not the only country.
I know that I am outside of the picture in all of these scenarios and as such I don't have all the facts, only just what I think and see, and so might be a bit unfair in my judgment. I do not understand these ways and how this is right. This blog gets MANY international hits daily. I am not trying to offend anyone or say that I understand their ways.
Another little girl in an East European orphanage died last week, without her family, alone. Her special need -- she was blind. Thats it. So how does a blind child die at age 4?
Like with Elton John when he wanted to adopt an HIV baby boy from Ukraine and was denied because he didn't have a 'legal marriage,' because it was policy. So what. He is a knight for goodness sake. That aside, if its about the kids, why not give them to the people whom want them, whom can love them and give them life? How can it be better for the child to be left in an orphanage as another statistic to die?
Just my two cents, that's all. I know I am waaay out of the picture and only have the half of it. But I, for one, want to adopt from Foster Care. I want to adopt from Overseas. Older kids or younger, whomever God places in my family.
Adopt kids from the USA, whole-heartily and yes I intend to, but also kids from overseas too. God doesn't pick one over the other - why should we? He loves "all the children of the world", and so should we. How can you love God, and not his children? All of them?
Take care, everyone.
--Mother Teresa
People ask me why, still, adopt overseas orphans instead of our own. The fact is I am not saying not to adopt our own at all. I think all orphans need a family, here or overseas. I believe that God knows and will lead you where to go, sure, it might look like it is yourself, and agencies, etc -- but was it a successful adoption, or did it fall through? If it doesn't work, most likely it wasn't meant to be. I know that is why I can't adopt right now. I don't have the means but the means will come.
So, why Overseas? They will die without us. In cribs or beds, alone, its not just something people whom advocate for them say -- it is the sad truth -- they will be transferred to institutions like these [warning, disturbing content] -- and not just in the country featured in the example video.
Yes, they are disabled. But they are JUST KIDS. Taken out of conditions like those shown they can thrive, improve, develop, learn and grow.
I read a story once on an adoptive mother's blog about how the orphanage her daughter was at was not expecting her and she walked in to find all the kids tied to the wooden slats of a playpen when she went to visit her little girl.
Here, this is neglect and child abuse. Here, the perpetrator would be investigated, arrested, tried and if found guilty -- sent to jail. There -- these people are paid to do this. These children are OBJECTS to most, less than animals, a paycheck to take home. Yes, that sounds harsh. I know, but it is the hard reality of MOST over there.
In the USA, this does not happen. These kids here are in 'the system' yes, but they have A CHANCE. However slight it is, they at least have a chance to make it and the support and help they need, they get to go to school and get an education, they are integrated into a family with the idea of being taught values behind it. They are valued members of society.
In the United States most people want toddlers or babies, its hard to be an older child or a teen. The stigma is that older kids are already 'wired' to act one way or another and are not shape-able anymore. -- Right. Tell me, at what age do you stop learning and loving and growing emotionally and spiritually?
In International Adoptions most people want toddlers or babies too. Most often when you say international adoption you think of China. China, is one of the hardest, if not the hardest program to adopt from in the world. You can't be single, you can't be over a certain age, you even have to fall within a certain BMI weight as well. These are just a few of their requirements. I've heard they say its because they are trying to find 'families for children' not 'children for families'
That, I applaud and agree with. And yet, find hard to believe. Why does adopting from China take over two years?? They say its because they don't have enough kids there? And yet you have kids in china just sitting in orphanages and waiting and dying that are considered "not adoptable" why? Because they are missing a leg, have a cleft palate, have down syndrome, cerebral palsy? Is it because they were born a girl? There are PLENTY of children in China for ALL people to bring home. So why don't they let them go? Are their requirements for who is adoptable and whom is not just as strict?? They don't want them -- they allow only one kid per household. That in itself is adding to the problem of their over population, because they all only can have one child - most little girls get abandoned because boys carry the family name. Yet, abandoned girls are STILL there. They are STILL adding to the population. Soo.. why not allow TWO children per household?? This will give them a second chance to have a boy AND get kids out of orphanages and out of streets -- thus causing a drop in population. Sadly, China is not the only country.
I know that I am outside of the picture in all of these scenarios and as such I don't have all the facts, only just what I think and see, and so might be a bit unfair in my judgment. I do not understand these ways and how this is right. This blog gets MANY international hits daily. I am not trying to offend anyone or say that I understand their ways.
Another little girl in an East European orphanage died last week, without her family, alone. Her special need -- she was blind. Thats it. So how does a blind child die at age 4?
Like with Elton John when he wanted to adopt an HIV baby boy from Ukraine and was denied because he didn't have a 'legal marriage,' because it was policy. So what. He is a knight for goodness sake. That aside, if its about the kids, why not give them to the people whom want them, whom can love them and give them life? How can it be better for the child to be left in an orphanage as another statistic to die?
Just my two cents, that's all. I know I am waaay out of the picture and only have the half of it. But I, for one, want to adopt from Foster Care. I want to adopt from Overseas. Older kids or younger, whomever God places in my family.
Adopt kids from the USA, whole-heartily and yes I intend to, but also kids from overseas too. God doesn't pick one over the other - why should we? He loves "all the children of the world", and so should we. How can you love God, and not his children? All of them?
Take care, everyone.
Monday, April 26, 2010
1000 for Freddie
Grab This ButtonPlease, consider giving ten dollars to help Freddie get home. He has grown up watching other kids get adopted and had wondered why he hasn't, he thinks its because of his epilepsy. It is not, like I said before a wonderful, wonderful family want to go get him. They are trying to adopt him and love him and he doesn't even know it.
So, this is the 1000 for Freddie. If 1000 people donated just 10 dollars, his family would have all the money they need to save him from this fate. I myself will be contributing this payday. Thank you so much everyone for listening, and watching, and caring. If you cannot contribute, use your blog, your facebook, your myspace, your instant messenger, your newspaper, whatever means you can to reach these 1000 people. Maybe donate to his puzzle fundraiser. We can change this boy's future.
Donate to bring Freddie home, HERE.
Thanks again.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Freddie Needs Funds...
...hi all. Is me again, stopping in real quick to tell you again about one of the older boys at Reece's Rainbow -Freddie. Ever since I found the website a couple years ago I worried about one of the kids there, he was 13 at the time, I think, epileptic and living in an eastern European orphanage. This was not good at all - first, like most kids in east Europe orphanages; when he turned sixteen he would be out on the streets, but he would have Epilepsy, a treatable medical condition [I know, I was diagnosed with it myself at age 19. I am in my 30's now and have had only two seizures since.] But out on the street, he would have no treatment. Also, this poor boy has watched other kids get adopted so many times, and not him. And he is a smart boy, he has asked if it was because of his Epilepsy.
Goodness, child, no. I kept thinking over and over again. Like Mara, I would have gone for him if only I possibly could. But for Freddie, you absolutely HAD to be married. So I checked almost every day, hoping someone could see past his age -- well -- someone finally did. A very beautiful family that had been watching him too. You can meet them here.
Freddie will soon be 15. This family has all the love that he can ever ask for and he doesn't even know that someone [alot of someones] really do love him and want him. All that stands in the way is the dollars to get there. What do you say folks? Is your three dollars better spent on a cheeseburger or a child's life? If everyone gave just a few bucks [or posted this on thier blogs if they really cannot] together we can get him out of there and HOME, where he needs to be. Please all, don't just read this, hop on over and paypal her a few dollars today? Post about them to your blog today? Thanks you all.
Always,
Debrah in Arizona
PS: Might be another post out today or soon that I wrote on the 6'th -- but I am nervous to post it. Take care.
Goodness, child, no. I kept thinking over and over again. Like Mara, I would have gone for him if only I possibly could. But for Freddie, you absolutely HAD to be married. So I checked almost every day, hoping someone could see past his age -- well -- someone finally did. A very beautiful family that had been watching him too. You can meet them here.
Freddie will soon be 15. This family has all the love that he can ever ask for and he doesn't even know that someone [alot of someones] really do love him and want him. All that stands in the way is the dollars to get there. What do you say folks? Is your three dollars better spent on a cheeseburger or a child's life? If everyone gave just a few bucks [or posted this on thier blogs if they really cannot] together we can get him out of there and HOME, where he needs to be. Please all, don't just read this, hop on over and paypal her a few dollars today? Post about them to your blog today? Thanks you all.
Always,
Debrah in Arizona
PS: Might be another post out today or soon that I wrote on the 6'th -- but I am nervous to post it. Take care.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Sing...
"...Sing a Song, sing it loud, sing it strong. Sing of good things, not bad. Sing of Happy, not sad. Don't worry that its not good enough for anyone else to hear...."
I forgot this song, until I was looking over the internet for inspirational songs for a video I am making for another website. Then I found this and instantly remembered it. Since its been well over twenty years since I heard it, and apparently there have been many versions since, it took a while to find the version who's melody and child-like voices had embedded into my memory that had come to the surface, a memory long forgotten but so easy to grasp. Then I found it, and here it is.
Oh, if we could only live with such child-like simplicity and faith. I put this song in my sidebar as well as in this post, for the little kids everywhere that need a family to sing to them.
PS: The song doesn't seem to be working here in this post when I try to get it to play, but it does work in the sidebar, if you wish to play it. After all -- we all should indulge the child inside sometimes. Take care.
I forgot this song, until I was looking over the internet for inspirational songs for a video I am making for another website. Then I found this and instantly remembered it. Since its been well over twenty years since I heard it, and apparently there have been many versions since, it took a while to find the version who's melody and child-like voices had embedded into my memory that had come to the surface, a memory long forgotten but so easy to grasp. Then I found it, and here it is.
Oh, if we could only live with such child-like simplicity and faith. I put this song in my sidebar as well as in this post, for the little kids everywhere that need a family to sing to them.
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PS: The song doesn't seem to be working here in this post when I try to get it to play, but it does work in the sidebar, if you wish to play it. After all -- we all should indulge the child inside sometimes. Take care.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
You All Gotta See This:
What a beautiful true story. This, is the type of movie needed today. This, throws away so many stereotypes about all people. I am in love with this movie, and have never seen it. Wow. Just - wow.
This time, it is in good taste, Warner Bros. Thank you.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
RainbowKids.Com
Just look at all these sweet and many little faces! Membership is required but its quick and free and entirely worth it, either if you are adopting, have adopted, are wanting to adopt [they have a photolisting!] or want to share adoption stories and support - rainbowkids.com - click here.
This photo belongs to the Rainbow Kids website, no copyright intended, I will remove it at their asking.
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
I Do - Part 2
Hi everyone,
Ok, this is 'the big one' for today, because it is about a topic that has been on my mind for a few days now, brought on by a conversation I had with someone the other day.
Back in November I wrote this entry, and more specifically from that entry concerning the topic of the conversation mentioned above, the following paragraphs:
"I don't want to leave this on that grim note. So, please join me when you read this in a prayer for all these children. About 7% of the Christian population alone can lead to no more orphans in the entire world. That's it. I read the site Over the Moon With Joy and encourage you to visit there. I have decided to join her prayers that adoption might be brought into people's hearts, that all these kids might come home.
And that is not to say only Christan's should adopt. Love is something that belongs to everyone everywhere. Its just to display a 'statistical measurement' of how few people it would really take. :)"
And that was the 'just' of the conversation had. Now, keep in mind, if you look around this blog - that I am religious. And there is this - just because someone doesn't choose to follow one particular religion or any religion for that matter does not mean their home would be any less loving than anyone else's.
Is it better to let them sit waiting in an orphan home NEVER knowing real love at all? Especially when there is a family for them?
I think believing is very important and it does help, yes, and I will never doubt or discourage what to me is a fact. But I will not discourage any family that steps out to get these kids. I encourage them very much. We've all heard it said that "Religion God accepts as pure is to care for widows and orphans." And so to step forward - in my opinion it can't get more believing that that.
And like I said back in November: Love is something that belongs to everyone everywhere. Wonderful families are everywhere too.
Thank you for your time.
Ok, this is 'the big one' for today, because it is about a topic that has been on my mind for a few days now, brought on by a conversation I had with someone the other day.
Back in November I wrote this entry, and more specifically from that entry concerning the topic of the conversation mentioned above, the following paragraphs:
"I don't want to leave this on that grim note. So, please join me when you read this in a prayer for all these children. About 7% of the Christian population alone can lead to no more orphans in the entire world. That's it. I read the site Over the Moon With Joy and encourage you to visit there. I have decided to join her prayers that adoption might be brought into people's hearts, that all these kids might come home.
And that is not to say only Christan's should adopt. Love is something that belongs to everyone everywhere. Its just to display a 'statistical measurement' of how few people it would really take. :)"
And that was the 'just' of the conversation had. Now, keep in mind, if you look around this blog - that I am religious. And there is this - just because someone doesn't choose to follow one particular religion or any religion for that matter does not mean their home would be any less loving than anyone else's.
Is it better to let them sit waiting in an orphan home NEVER knowing real love at all? Especially when there is a family for them?
I think believing is very important and it does help, yes, and I will never doubt or discourage what to me is a fact. But I will not discourage any family that steps out to get these kids. I encourage them very much. We've all heard it said that "Religion God accepts as pure is to care for widows and orphans." And so to step forward - in my opinion it can't get more believing that that.
And like I said back in November: Love is something that belongs to everyone everywhere. Wonderful families are everywhere too.
Thank you for your time.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Thursday, August 7, 2008
"Fingerprints of God"
Again, I did not make this video, and I hope the person and family who did does not mind the use of it. It is one of my most favorite video's I've found, very uplifting and inspirational. It shows another side of adoption that is not seen as often, I think.
It doesn't matter how old you are or who or where you are from to need love or to love someone, you are all a work of art. Thank you for this beautiful video. I hope it inspires others and makes them smile as it does for me. And I will remove it at your asking.
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